Be thankful for who, and what, you have in your life!!!

Crazzy_Al · 12-23-2005, 02:44 PM

Hug, kiss, say "I love you" to the ones you love, you never know when you'll lose them.

I tend to not talk too much about my family life here (because I spend too much time fucking around with most of you clowns) but I did want to ge a little serious and talk with you guys about something.

I just got a call from my mom, who is currently at Troy Beaumont Hospital, and she told me that she's going home tomorrow and will not have to spend Christmas away from her home. My mother had to have emergency surgery on Monday morning at 7:00am this week thanks to a severe blockage in her intestines. This was her SIXTEENTH major surgery in probably 15 years or so. (2 back surgeries, hystorectomy(sp), gastric bypass, the list goes on) The doctors think that this last surgery was due to the amount of scar tissue she has inside of her and the gastric bypass surgery from a couple years back. This last surgery was the one that a few of us, especially my mother, thought that we were going to lose her for good. I could go into why we thought that, and what had happened prior to this emergency surgery, but I'll spare you all, those details.

Thanks to my upbringing and events that have taken place over the past 5 years or so, I have snot spoken very much with my parents. Hell, 3 or so years ago we stopped talking all together and I did say a single word to either (not by phone or in person) for almost 2 years...and we live 3 miles down the road from each other at the time.

I lost a lot of time and possible memories with my family during these times, time and memories I can never get back. And they basically missed out on the first 2 years of my daughter's (their 1st grandchild) life. They can never get those times back either. And for what? Words that were said in the heat of the moment and while probably angry? I hate to preach to you guys, but at the same time, I'd hate for any of you to have to go through shit like this. I would have hated to lose my mom and not been able to say goodbye, or would have let her die knowing that this hurt and pain was still in all of us.

Over the past couple months we have all been trying to be a family again, and we've taken it one step at a time. But almost losing my mother has been an eye-opening experience for all of us and we're all going to try even harder to make things work and forget the past. Cherish what and who you have, you might not have them much longer...

Oh, and as far as my mother's health and recorvery is concerned, she NEVER be able to eat solid foods again...ever! Everything has to be blended to a pulp. We Italians are people who love our food, and to not be able to eat bread, cheese, pasta, etc is a nightmare. But, I guess trading those things for breath in our lungs isn't too bad of a deal.

Sorry to get sappy on you, but I wanted to pass on to those of you who might have family relation issues going on right now. Please do what you can to fix those, especially since this is the Christmas season...

Scott_DriveLineSolutions · 12-23-2005, 03:38 PM

AL, I hope you family get spend more time together during the holidays. You know what I just went through and I'm just happy everyone is home and healthy. If you need anything just call ok bud.

StangRacer · 12-23-2005, 03:58 PM

Wow, sorry to hear about that Al, hopefully everything will be ok and you guys can begin to have wonderful family memories again. It will also be good for your daughter to be able to spend time with her grandparents. Hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas.

Lisa · 12-23-2005, 04:20 PM

I'm not good with stuff like this, but that's very good advice Al. Sadly, most people realize what you just said only after it's too late.

Hope you all have a great X-mas and much time together.

Lisa

tirebitten · 12-23-2005, 04:38 PM

i hope you mom has a speedy recovery from the surgery and you and your family have a great christmas

**BigWheelinBubba** · 12-23-2005, 05:08 PM

I'm not good at this either, but I hope you and your family have lots of happy times ahead.

Fortunately for me my parents have both been healthy so far, and i am very thankful for that. My parents are like my best friends and i hope to have them around for a long time to come.

I know you don't care to much for me Al, but i sincerely wish you and your family the best.

Crazzy_Al · 12-23-2005, 06:06 PM

Thanks, everyone.

LodderD · 12-23-2005, 07:24 PM

AL, sorry to hear about your Mom. Hope you and your family have a great Christmas.

357windsor · 12-23-2005, 08:01 PM

Godbless you and your family Al. Those are good words to live by.

Crazzy_Al · 12-23-2005, 10:44 PM

Thanks again, guys.

bigslim · 12-24-2005, 12:53 AM

Al, glad to her that your mother is going home. It could have been worse. There is a reason why you have been given more time to spend with her and your family. Use it wisely.

Crazzy_Al · 12-27-2005, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by bigslim

Al, glad to her that your mother is going home. It could have been worse. There is a reason why you have been given more time to spend with her and your family. Use it wisely.

Thanks.

She went back into the hospital today.

StangRacer · 12-27-2005, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Crazzy_Al

Thanks.

She went back into the hospital today.

Keep us posted on how she's doin, bud.

PITTBULL · 12-30-2005, 08:49 AM

Hope every thing go's well. I went through the same thing with my dad as you did. I didnt speak to him for 2 years and then he had a major heart attack. We almost lost him. And now he don't have long,But now we talk everyday and Im up at his house everysunday. Just gotta make the best of what time we have left together. I hope she is doing good Al and you and Mother and family will be in my prayers. Take care,Kevin